REFLECT

Choosing you & the power of present-moment living.

When you choose you, and choose to live in the present moment. you reclaim your right to say:

‘Yes please’ to what feels good, and ‘No thank you’ to what does not.

If something is bothering you or doesn’t feel good, it’s a ‘no thank you'. You’re not obligated to tolerate discomfort or make light of what feels wrong, no matter who else is involved.

Instead, find a ‘yes please’, no matter how small.

If addressing the situation is a ‘yes please’, then do so in that moment. Addressing a situation in real time is not confrontational, it’s the real you… the unrehearsed you. Putting a moment off to be dealt with at a later time accumulates stress, anxiety, and pain.

In recounting a past moment, the focus is often on another person or group of people.

But you can never fully understand someone else’s actions or motives, therefore, don’t even try. It brings you no more settlement than what the original moment brought you.

You are at your most truthful and effective when you are present. You are absolutely entitled to respond as you feel, in the moment. Processing in real time might mean looking after yourself in many different ways, but it’s just that: look after yourself, however feels best for you. Only then can you truly look after others.

‘No thank-you’s’ never get better and never feel good.

So find your ‘yes please.’ This is more alien than you might think. We are so conditioned by society to please others. It feels incredibly freeing to say a constant ‘yes please’ to yourself. It’s not selfish —it’s self-worth, self-love, and self-respect.

Even in the crappiest of moments, there is a ‘yes please’ to be found. Because when your attention changes, the moment changes.

You begin to direct yourself, your energy, your awareness, toward what supports your well-being.
No more ignoring or suppressing your feelings.
No more masking discomfort with false positivity.

If something’s unpleasant, acknowledge it. But don’t stay looking at it release yourself to your ‘yes please’, to your better moment.
You have the power to shift toward something more favourable, something that feels better. 

When you are true to yourself, you will be felt. And everything becomes lighter and freer.

Freedom only exists in the moment you’re in.

Otherwise, you’re trapped:
Stuck in the past.
Trying to escape to the future.
Missing now.

Stop the incessant recounting and reliving of stories. Reality is shaped by you - here and now.
No longer looking to others for reassurance or permission.

Live lightly.
Focus on your ‘yes please’.
More ‘yes pleases’ will come.

You’ll feel the shift instantly when your focus aligns with what feels good. Your internal space begins to fill with a positive energy, an energy that is for you, and can be felt by others. That energy is well-received because it is well within you. And it’s never-ending, once you’re connected to it.

Well-being is not just what we want. It’s what we are.

Focus on what is wanted.
Focus on your ‘yes please’.
Not on the unwanted.

Either way, you bring more of what you focus on.

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” – Albert Einstein